Dealing with a difficult person can be a challenge, especially when it comes to someone who has power over you, such as your boss. There are different kinds of bosses: the slacker, the perfectionist, the diva, the control freak, the screamer, the manipulator, etc. If your boss falls into one of those categories, then your professional life is most likely physically and emotionally draining and more complicated than it should be. Research has found being overworked is one of the main reasons people quit their jobs, this means that people don’t leave their job, they leave their boss. One of the toughest things about working for a difficult boss is their unpredictability. One day they are in a good mood, and the next they are less rational, less understanding, and moody. When you put yourself in their shoes, though, you may realize that they actually have good reasons to be this way. Bosses are in charge for a reason. They have a lot of responsibilities and are under a lot of pressure, just like you are. To deal with them, try to understand their challenges, be patient, and keep in mind the following tips.
Pay Attention to Body Language
This will let you know when your boss is will be more receptive to discussion, and it will also tell you when it is not a good time to approach them. Try to learn what triggers them and what motivates them or puts them in a good mood. Learning these things about your boss will make your life a little easier, as you will be able to communicate better and know when or when not to approach them with your concerns.
Don't Expect a Miracle
Some people just hope that things will eventually get better, but the truth is that it is hard,if not impossible, for a person to change their personality. If they are stressed and under a lot of pressure constantly, they are most likely to be in a bad mood or irritable most of the time. Instead of hoping for them to eventually lighten up, learn to adapt.
Let It Go
After a few weeks of dealing with your difficult boss, you will recognize that you cannot control the situation, so instead of letting it affect your day, find ways to lower your stress and handle the situation in a way that will be good for both parties. If necessary, try to minimize contact with your boss unless it is absolutely needed. Avoid gossiping, being late, or anything that will give your boss a reason to come at you in a negative way.
Be sure to document every interaction with your boss, whether it is a casual conversation, a request, or a criticism. With everything that is going on in your boss’s life, they may sometimes forget what they said to you or when, so documenting everything will help you reference back whenever it is needed. Also, this will be helpful if your boss is ever hostile, dishonest, discriminating, or offensive toward you.
If after trying your best to deal with your difficult boss you still face problems with them, leave. Working for a great boss is rewarding and you can learn a lot from them, but working for someone who adds unnecessary stress to your life is not worth it. You deserve to work in a healthy environment, where you can speak up and voice your opinions or issues to your boss without being scared of how they will react.